What is Dating rule?

[lab102-Wansoo Cho]

Actually, It's really funny for me to mention dating cause I'm also in position to get advice from you guys

However, as far as I'm concerned, There are several basic manners we have to keep in mind.(especially blind date)

Firstly, you have to keep eye-contact when talking and also listen carefully when the other says.

It is no need to say because those are common decency between person to person. Although you are not satisfied with your

counterpart, it's not a good manner to show you are not statisfied in front.

Also, In the first meeting, I think it's better to go Dutch. Once, I met a girl who didn't intend to pay at all. Even though I

got a good first impression of her, that fact made me give up my mind. I Know It's a really hot issue but when

it comes to the first meeting, i think it is right. Because we are not meeting as beloved ones(rather to get to know each

others), one-sided paying can cause people feel stress or make them feel they are superior than the other.

How do you think about my idea? let's share your opinions!

[lab102-KimSieun]

It's so funny to talk about dating with classmates.
I agree with your first point that we'd better be polite.
But, in discussion with Dutch, I think I have a better idea. If the man I'm dating wants to go dutch, I would be embarassed as you did in the last experience you mentioned. So, in my case, I used to pay dessert like coffee or some cakes when the man pays lunch or dinner. Actually, the costs are almost same, you know? I think it's less awkward. How do you think about my opinion?

[(lab102)Sujin Shin]

I totally agree with you about dating manners. I think eye-contact is very important to first date. This is a basic manner when people meet each others. If your partner don't look at you and just listen to you in an absent sort of way, you feel like that your partner is really rude.
Also Paying is important in dating . Of course, to go Dutch may be good for each other formally. However, in real situation it must be little awkward. So rather than going Dutch, one person pays for meal, then the other pays for something different thing like movie or coffee. I think doing like this will be okay to each other.

[(lab102)LeeJunmi]

I agree with your idea about eye-contact thing and i'd like to add one more, what about smiling? haha because i've seen many people who don't smile while talking to others out there. I know there could be many situations which you're not supposed to smile for example, in funeral, in hospital, etc. But when dating, you'd better smile to the other if you'd love to give a good first impression. For me, when i say something to a boy, and if he smiles at me then i'll be thinking that he is a better man than the others who don't. and i know i should'nt keep a poker face in front of a boy who's trying to tell me something. i think that's one of the basic manners as well.
For going Dutch that you mentioned- it's difficult to clear up my point but i think too strict Dutch is not good. and actually i had probelm understanding what you said about Dutch. There would be few diffenent ways of going Dutch, right? In my opinion, when my dating partner treats me dinner then definitely i will treat him back with coffee or movie ticket.

[(sixzero7)YooTaeKwan]

It's very fun to chat about sort of this topic. I think the most important rule that we must keep is to respect our partners. Sharing she or he's opinion and trying to understand and allow is the first attitude we have to bear in mind. Usually the money problem is very hard to solve. Deciding who have to pay for date can be serious problem because it can hurt partner's mind and pride. So it's very significant to show sense about it

[(103)ChoSunhee]

Yes, if no ones in position of asking one out, they should go Dutch.

You said, one should listen, pay attention, try to eye contact at the first date. What if a person is not interested in at all? It'll only make the other person misunderstand that what he/she is saying is so fun, or perhaps, he/she might think "oh, this person kind of likes me..." or something...

I've read moving body towards the speaker means that the person is interested, and because of this, I try to sit close to the table and kind of pushing my body towards the speaker on purpose not to be caught that I'm not interested whenever it's boring. However, sometimes people misunderstand that they have something in common with me and plan next date. I guess communicating, socializing, and living with others are really complicated.

[(Aplus)BaeDaeHyun]

Partially, I don`t agree with you.
Why do you think that who should pay?
Of course, To go Dutch can be a good manner. But, in my thought, It doesn`t matter.
When I go to blind meeting, I think that I will absorb all charges.
If she has a good feeling to me, I will be met with her because of the fact that I absorbed all charges.
But, If not, that`s all.
This is only my thought. But, do you think that so good?

[(apple) ohseunghyun]

I agree with your tips mentioning above.

In addition to those tips, I could say you should wear neat and clean as possible.

Especially in a first meeting, you have to try hard to wear as most fashionable as you can.

Of course for showing your good manner too, such as pulling a chair for woman in a restaurant or offering her your dish and say "would you like to try this?"


Just being a good guy is the fastest and efficient way for your blind date to end up going to second meeting with your partner.

Thank you for reading this.

[aaron ian]

I think having a good attitude when out on a date is most important as one's first impression depends on it. It's a good idea to talk about different things in an effort to get to know each other better and laugh at each other's jokes even if they are not perfect. Dating is all about creating a memorable experience with hope to keep a good relationship with the partner. So, let's be positive, respectful, and kind when we have a date!
Thank you all for sharing your ideas.

[lab102-Wansoo Cho]

I think there are some misunderstandings about my point. What I mean by Dutch is not strict 50-50. I mean, flexiblely and cleverly paying bills is going dutch. And also someone said paying attention and listening can sometimes make counterpart misunderstand your feeling toward him/her. But I'm totally against you. It's not a problem of misunderstanding. It's a meeting between person to person. So there should at least coutesy that you have to keep in mind. If it is because it is blind date, What about others? According to your saying, Do we have to stay ignorant in front of people who you don't have in mind? ?That's nonesense.

[woogayeon(sixzero7)]

Although you are not satisfied with your counterpart, it's not a good manner to show you are not statisfied in front. I can't agree more with your idea.
I think this is basic manner. If you express your negative feeling to the person who sits in front of you, he/she feel humiliation in that situation.

And I agree with the idea that woman and man have to go dutch. In my opinion it is good to pay equally. Cause maybe, they(she or he) are in same status.
But I can't agree with this sentence "one-sided paying can cause people feel stress or make them feel they are superior than the other." This is not true.
women does not feel superior thoughts when men pay everthing.

I think it is good to go dutch, so two person divide the burden into two.

[leemike05]

Hi, you all shared really nice rules for date and I think we should more discuss about it.so there are some tipsDon’t make your single girlfriends out to be catty, jealous haters.Relationships are hard work; know this and fall in love anyway
Speaking your mind won’t scare off the right guy, it will make him fall more
If you treat a first date like an interview, it will feel like one
You can only control one thing in a relationship: yourself

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